Relationships

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6/26/19– Men, do not let a woman define you. Women do not let a man define you. Do not try to put each other into a box, and do not control one another. The man should take a leadership position, yes, but not to be a control freak, but to guide his family, and to keep them safe.

I am so lucky to have my husband. We are not perfect, he does err on the more controlling side, and sometimes I feel the feminist brainwashing affecting me as well as I want more control and I let some things make me feel unhappy and unsatisfied. But I shove that down, because I know that in reality, I have it good. I know my husband will not hurt me, and he will protect me with his life. I have seen fire in his eyes and I know he would not back down.

For those of you who are still looking for that life long partner, do not let your search consume who you are. Develop yourself, your character, focus on being a better person, for that will shine much brighter than money, to those of us who are looking for gold of the soul. If you are so focused on getting your needs met, you will most likely find an equally selfish person, and it will not be a joyful life ahead.

To those who are already married, it can be hard to extricate yourself from your marriage to see yourself as an individual. And although marriage binds two people together, and they become one, it is still important to take time for yourself, and be yourself. You do not become a copy of your spouse, you each bring different strengths and weaknesses to the table and they balance each other out.

You need to be on the same table though, have a similar background or worldview. It is not healthy to bind yourself to someone who you have virtually nothing in common with. Discuss difficult and taboo topics and find your common ground, otherwise you will be like fire and ice and you will destroy each other, because the ice will melt and turn into water and will in turn douse the fire and nothing will be left but wet ashes.

We need to take marriage seriously again. Do not eat of the fruit of marriage if you do not believe in it. Just as you would not want to take communion if you do not believe in Christ. Beware of those who take the bread, and drink the wine because they are hungry, and not because they believe. For the food means nothing to them, and when they find no nourishment from it, they will throw it away.

Be careful who you bind yourself to. And do not let them define everything you are.